Dear Women, How to have “ME” time among the chaos of work and family?

How to have “ME” time among the chaos of work and family?

Attention Women: Do you find time for yourself among the chaos of work and family?

Giving a separate “me” time makes most women feel guilty but it is crucial for their well-being. Self-time helps you to improve your work-life balance, moderate your stress, regulate your emotions, and improve your overall health.

Just think about the following questions and thoughts. Your opinion matters to you!!

What is your opinion about working moms who don’t have enough time for their children? Even though, why they are still working?
Is the same question asked to working fathers? If not, why?
Would you be able to understand the gender bias in the above questions?

Comment below what you think about it.

Now, let me ask some other questions…

Do you have friends? If so, at what intervals you are spending time with them?
Have you gone on a trip without your family?
How do you spend time relaxing?

Many women think that “me” time is having a good sleep, spending exclusive time with their children, or having a relaxing conversation with their husbands. Not at all, they are so-called “us time”

Some women might say that spending “me” time is extremely hard but the time I am spending with my children, husband, and business is like an investment and I feel like it is worth it. I don’t feel any super good about spending “Me” time.

They aren’t aware of the monotony and burnout consequences which unknowingly affect their lives.

Dear ladies, remember “me” time means the time when you can do what you want to do that is you should spend relaxing time on your own neither working nor doing things for others. This “me” time is a great opportunity to reduce your stress and restore energy.

How to find “Me” time?

Talk to your Baby. Sacrifice:

The first and foremost rule is “It’s not about finding the time, It’s all about taking it” Don’t feel guilty for taking your time, because your inner child is always in sacrifice mode. As a mom, wife, and working woman, your inner sacrificing baby wants you to work for others and think for others. So, talk to your inner child and tell her that you need your own time, you deserve it and your inner child wants you to justify it, just tell her that the “me” time makes you a better parent, better partner, and better professional than before.

Convince your inner child first, so that you can able to focus on your “me” time.

Plan for important aspects:

In default, Women will always be putting others first before themselves, especially their kids. So to take time for yourself, being a woman you should fight hard against this tendency. So that, you can able to plan for other important aspects like

Speak to your partner about sharing household chores that are important for your family. A woman is the one who always takes responsibility at home though her partner is helping and sharing the work. Shift some responsibilities to your partner.
Have someone to watch your kids
List out the fully committed work and the work you can delegate to others.

Daydreaming:

Sounds funny. I am not telling you to spoil on daydreaming but there is something called Manifestations and Visualizations. Just start visualizing your dreams and ensure it is filling your thoughts and emotions. You will get a good feel and it motivates you to take action on your dreams, goals, desires, and wishes and thus it boosts your energy.

You can do it by spending 5 minutes while starting a day. This is “Me” time.

“Me” time tips:

It may be a monthly time, weekly time, or a few minutes in a day. Yeah, “me” time is not the one that you have to make exclusively for it. It is something that you can add to your day, week, or month but exclusively for you. Because, being a woman, you don’t spend time exclusively for yourself, even if you don’t think about it. I will share a few pointers that may raise your eyebrows or frown and you may feel, “What? Is this needed? Does this make a difference in my life? I can’t accept” Whatever may be felt, comment below, and we will discuss more.

The first rule is, “You don’t need to set time, instead set a moment” Eg. Instead of doing meditation at around 7 AM, set a moment like after bathing or before going to sleep.

The second rule is “Avoid distractions –get rid of your phone and schedule a separate time for your social media or your messages and mail. Because this is one of the important culprits which take your time without knowing you and keeps you always stressed” So whenever you are on your “me” time, don’t take your phone or put your notifications on silent.

So your self-time may be {in a day}

10 minutes manifestation immediately after waking up
5 minutes walk before breakfast
Even a deep breath in every sip of coffee or tea
Talking to yourself in front of the mirror while doing makeup
Doing introspection while traveling to your workplace through the metro or bus

Now tell me, how do you find your “me” time in a day?

Finding self-time {in a week}

Check your time when you can able to be alone. It may be one weekend night or early morning where you can watch movies which you wish to watch {just prepare yourself on a day before} or if you are a book lover, you can read.

Use this exclusive 2 hours’ time for reading, journaling, painting, or watching movies. Don’t use this exclusive time for sleeping. Of course, sleeping is crucial for your health and well-being.

You may say that you feel tired that is why you are sleeping but remember, for mental tiredness, you should exercise your mind by doing something creative or something interesting. Ensure your sleep hygiene but remember your interesting and creative things only refresh your mind.

Then, make a call to your close friends and chat about your old sweet memories and your dreams. Don’t waste your time sharing your problems. Of course, sharing your problems and seeking help is good for your mental health but this “me” time is exclusively to refresh you. So spend with right-minded individuals and discuss the common interesting facts.

Finding “me” time {in a month}

If you are a religious person, spend at least one hour at your spiritual place which may be a temple church or any meditation place. The rule is to go out!!
If you are a non-religious person, go out where it nourishes your soul. It may be a park, cinema, or mall where you can meet strangers and communicate with them about your mutual interests.
Or you can join a tennis club or any sports club of your interest. Depending upon your interest, join that class or club, it nurtures your soul.

When you explore a woman who is charming, energetic, and highly professional and also a fantastic better half and awesome mom, the reason behind that is, she is giving time for herself which makes her life better.

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