Self-confidence: How to be More Confident?

Confidence is the best attire for an individual to look attractive and to connect with people. Confidence is directly linked to your well-being and it is crucial to take steps to improve your confident level when you are taking care of your Mental & Emotional Health. Here are the some tips to improve your Confidence.

Self-esteem and Self-confidence:

Self-esteem means overall opinion of yourself. That is how you feel about your abilities and limitations. It includes Self-confidence, identity, feeling of belonging and feeling of competence.

Self-confidence means feeling of security and it is the foundation of Self-esteem. It is attitude about your skills and abilities. Self-confidence means you know your strengths and weakness, accept yourself as a whole, trust your abilities and have positive view on yourself.

How to be More Confident? Tips to improve your Self-confidence:

Know your Strengths & Weaknesses:

Cultivating self-awareness plays a crucial role in improving your confident levels. Note down your Strengths and weaknesses, explore it how you categorized these skills, abilities and values in to your strengths and weaknesses. If you find difficulty in doing this step, pick up the next step.

Think about your Past achievements and failures:

If you find difficulty in knowing your strengths and weakness, think and explore your previous achievements and failures in terms of your skills, abilities and values

What made you to taste the success?
Why you didn’t achieve your goals?
What is the reason for your failures?

How you convert your failures in to success?

This helps you to know about your strengths, weakness and assist you to have a positive image on yourself.

Accepting your weaknesses:

Self-acceptance is the root of your confidence. When you start accepting your weaknesses, you don’t feel shy about yourself, instead you leverage your strength and use your weaknesses as a stepping stones for your success.

Practice Assertiveness:

Assertiveness means ability to express your beliefs, thoughts, feelings and defending your own rights in a constructive way neither passive nor aggressive.

Eg: If your senior asked you to do a job which you don’t like to do. Passive means, you accept the job and do. Aggressive means denying the same arrogantly. Constructive pattern {assertiveness} means you understand the situation and exercising your own rights without denying the rights of others like I understand that why you asked me to do, but unfortunately, I am having other important jobs which is in top priority to do earlier. Hope you understand.

Pick one high value skill and construct it:

Skill plays an important role in your confident level. Pick one skill which has higher value and practice it daily to get mastered on it. Mastering a skill helps you to improve your confidence

Stop Comparison:

Comparison is the enemy of Self-confidence. When you start comparing ourselves with others, you feel very low by focusing and comparing our weaknesses with other’s strengths. This completely destroys your confident level. Social media is a demon and source of comparison. Stop comparing yourself with others, if you feel dull or low by comparing yourself to others, think about what makes you dull. This gives you a cue about what you desire most. So start working on the steps to achieve your desires.

Be a continuous learner:

Continuous learning provides information and builds your knowledge. Knowledge and practicing and exercising knowledge improves your confident level.

Be in Parasympathetic mode:

Having a calm and composed state improves your confidence. So start managing your stress and be mindful in regulating your emotions in a healthy manner. Respond appropriately instead of giving reaction in conversations build your confidence level.

Goal setting:

Setting realistic goals and achieving the same boosts your feeling of self-worth and increases your confidence level. Goal setting rule and tips to achieve your goals

Find your purpose:

Knowing yourself, discovering yourself, finding your purpose makes you feel worthy and increases your confidence level.

Others:

Regular exercise, balanced diet, Practicing Mindfulness and Meditation helps you to accept yourself as a whole and improves your over all well being & thus by it increases your confidence level.

Confidence means “You are OK with not knowing”
Confidence comes from the feeling of well-being, acceptance of your body and mind and belief in your ability, skills and experience